If you’re prone to acne, you’re probably tempted (often!) to pop and pick every blemish that dares appear on your face.
We’ve all done it.
Who would want to leave an ugly whitehead on their face, and patiently wait for it to disappear?
I get you.
Not to mention the intensely satisfying (and yet gross!) feeling that comes with popping a pimple!
It feels like you’re doing a favor to your skin, right? You’re helping it purge something out of your body.
Now, I realize that there’s a difference between being an occasional pimple popper and a compulsive skin picker.
But chances are that if you have acne, you pick one, twice, thrice… And hop! 10 minutes have passed, and your face is a bloody AND painful mess.
And it becomes a bad habit that you. Just. Can’t. Stop.
A zit? Your body is trying to tell you something
So, let’s go back to the basics.
There’s a pimple on your face.
You don’t want it there, but it just is there.
Your very own body produced that very pimple.
Not because it’s trying to make you feel ugly or unlovable… But because it’s trying to send you a message.
It’s trying to tell you that there’s something wrong going on. You might need to change something, in your diet, in your general lifestyle, in the way you treat yourself, etc.
There’s a lot of things that could have led you to have that pimple – and it’s up to you try and understand what your body is telling you.
But what are you answering when you pop that zit/message?
“Why are you doing this to me?”
“I hate you”.
“I’ll never ever have clear skin”.
“Oh I can’t even think about leaving the house without any make-up on”.
“I might as well just cancel my holiday plans, I just can’t spend a full week having my friends staring at my face the whole time (or so I think)”.
Can you relate to these thoughts?
These thoughts, whether conscious or unconscious, are powerful.
Friend, we spend so much of our lives hating ourselves.
If you’re a woman, you know the truth of this.
If you’re a woman with acne, you REALLY know it!
It is no secret that we spend so much of our lives comparing ourselves to others – body, hair, talents, salary, relationships, lifestyle. Everything we are is under scrutiny.
And when you suffer from something that is as obvious as acne, you’re more vulnerable to criticism – yours and others’.
So, every time you squeeze and pop your skin, you validate what you think is true about yourself.
“I’m just not beautiful”.
“I’m not good enough”.
“I don’t allow myself to love and to be loved”.
Simply put, that’s self-sabotage.
Every time you pick, you hurt and disrupt the complex, delicate and fragile system that is your skin. It will have to work twice as hard to rebuild itself.
It’s a vicious cycle.
I’ll break the ice now: this is NOT OK.
Low self-esteem is NOT OK.
As silly as it may sound, you ARE beautiful. You ARE talented. You ARE sexy, attractive, successful, happy, full of surprises. You are all of these things at this very moment.
You may not feel like this right now, but your gorgeousness is the whole, complete truth. It defines you. This is who you truly are.
Anything else is just lies.
Your body already knows what’s true, and what’s false. It was made for complete health, and overflowing happiness.
So, know that your body is giving you its 100% to heal and repair the damage caused in the past.
OK, so what can I do to break the cycle?
If this article resonated with you at any level, I want you to start observing and changing the conversation you have with your body.
It may not seem like much, but it is oh! So vital. Trust me on this, OK? Just do it, because Celine said haha!
Stress, whether self-induced or caused by external circumstances, is a MAJOR cause of acne.
Simply notice what you are saying to yourself. When you catch yourself being negative, say something like: “GOTCHA!!”
See that the thought is there.
Without analysing the truth of it, ask yourself: “Is this thought something I would say to my best friend?”
If not, let it go. It is nothing but a thought.
Choose to replace it with something positive about yourself.
Be someone who is deeply, passionately in love with you.
You’re doing an awesome job
This week, it’s simply about you starting a loving dialogue with your body. Slowly, you will come from a place of constant fight with your body (yourself!), to a place of love, acceptance, and gradual change.
Next week, we’ll talk about techniques and practical exercises we can use to stop picking.
You got this.
You’re doing a fantastic job.
Love to you x
P.S: Who are you – an occasional pimple popper, or a compulsive skin picker? There’s no right or wrong answer here… We’re in this together. What are your best, tried and tested techniques to stop picking, prodding, touching your skin for imperfections?